This is an excerpt taken from Laurie Pawlik-Kienlen:
Reasons for Extramarital Affairs
* Inability to cope with cultural or ethnic differences.
* Disappointment that one partner hasn’t grown in the same ways.
* Unrealistic expectations about marriage.
* Sexual curiosity.
* Lost sense of fun and excitement in the marriage.
* Sexual addiction.
* Inability to accommodate a partner’s needs, interests or expectations.
* Inability to communicate one’s own interests, needs or desires.
* Boredom with the marriage, work, life, the relationship, or the routine.
* Lack of verbal skills or motivation to solve marriage problems together.
Do Men and Women Have Different Reasons for Extramarital Affairs?
Women may look for more emotional involvement when they’re involved in marital infidelity. Emotional cheating may be more likely for women. “Men and women often seek different things when they become involved in extramarital activity,” writes Dr Lusterman in Infidelity: A Survival Guide. “…women are more likely to link sex with love, while men’s involvements are more often primarily sexual.” Why men cheat may involve more physical reasons (not emotional cheating).
Dr Lusterman points out that this isn’t true for all men and women. In other words, not all women are looking for emotional attachments as part of their reason for extramarital affairs. Similarly, not all men are looking to satisfy a physical need as part of their reasons for extramarital affairs.
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I am amazed that the 2010 calendar for the kids was approved without all hell breaking loose. Very unlike last year when interventions from the children’s legal representative had to take place and hours upon hours were wasted nuancing the time that my husband could have with his own children down to the minute. Bravo boys and girls!
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My husband’s youngest daughter is caught in perpetual conflict over her parents’ divorce. She doesn’t point her anger toward me in the least. On the contrary, she and I have a very pleasant relationship and I am fond of her. However, what my husband has experienced is a cyclic trend where she will grow very despondent and upset. The other night, on her birthday, the evening ended in tears and accusations of abandonment. She desperately wished to go home to her mother. But no more than 2 weeks later, she grew sad and tearful when she was brought back home after spending a weekend with him. She said she didn’t want to go home but wanted to stay with him. She cried all night long, calling her father, while her mother and sister were unable to console her. She is 12 years old now and her parents have been separated/divorced since she was 8. What can we do to help her overcome her distress?
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In the roller coaster that is my husband’s relationship with his ex, fondly known as BQ, it still confounds me how yo-yo like it can be. Everything my husband says or does is open for attack – even the best of intentions. More recently, he had offered to help with transportation of the children for their after school activities. He works, so this is an offer that is clearly inconvenient to him but he wanted to be able to help out. So, he offered to take them back to their home after they are done with their activities. While she happily accepted this offer in the beginning, it is now a full blown commitment and if he even expresses that he has a conflict, the whole world explodes. And, on top of that, she is caustic about why he cannot support both ways – when he had obviously set it up that he can’t get out of work that early. And given that she is a part-time teacher, it would obviously be more convenient for her to handle the drop off. So the question I have is, how in the world does one get out of this endless cycle of hatred? Is she ever going to get over it?
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